tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post4128727732102023001..comments2024-01-22T02:25:19.520-08:00Comments on Confessions of a Local Fish: A Response to Andrea Kinggrrouchiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03619493798073601300noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-3931526221149348272013-09-18T04:46:08.619-07:002013-09-18T04:46:08.619-07:00Because he isn't a self centred asshole like y...Because he isn't a self centred asshole like you?<br /><br />Great post, grouchie. I agree wholeheartedly that Andrea seems like a great person with a huge heart and could be really happy in life if she wasnt wasting it with a shallow, egomaniacal narcissist who knows exactly how to manipulate her to get what he wants, and does it often and fully. She clearly has spent way too long with the same dipshit to be at all in touch with reality as to how a normal and healthy relationship should feel. LionsFan247https://www.blogger.com/profile/13604426968310938708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-42541596871721901832013-09-17T11:58:22.356-07:002013-09-17T11:58:22.356-07:00the answer is in the mirror,tony.look at 1 and u w...the answer is in the mirror,tony.look at 1 and u will see the answer.angerisagifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01945967112589502437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-10680042475047179322013-09-17T11:57:27.245-07:002013-09-17T11:57:27.245-07:00sure, tony. delusional. wow, blew 5000 on poker.wo...sure, tony. delusional. wow, blew 5000 on poker.wonder if yr kid ,i am sorry, adult son got any cash? angerisagifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01945967112589502437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-60788178461366678732013-09-17T11:46:32.049-07:002013-09-17T11:46:32.049-07:00great post, grouchie. no yoga pants . i am sad. lo...great post, grouchie. no yoga pants . i am sad. lol. angerisagifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01945967112589502437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-48757024584116097392013-09-17T08:17:01.357-07:002013-09-17T08:17:01.357-07:00And Tony, I'm describing my father above, not ...And Tony, I'm describing my father above, not you. Don't be upset about my description of you, even though the shoe may fit.The Poker Meisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18289059101454598371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-37216272797373381552013-09-17T08:10:40.848-07:002013-09-17T08:10:40.848-07:00Yeah - I think with a few exceptions (notably abov...Yeah - I think with a few exceptions (notably above), we'll find the poker bloggers are pretty consistent: it's not about money but other things surrounding poker. I'd imagine if you're blogging about playing poker (this is a general rule, not a catch-all, TONY), you have the presence of mind to keep it from becoming a financial burden or gambling problem.<br /><br />Of note, it's kinda funny that you only become a "problem gambler" when you lose money. Have you ever heard of a winning player going to gamblers anonymous? Generally not...<br /><br />Erick Lundgren is the only guy I can think of off hand but he's not a "problem gambler" when it comes to poker - only off table things like sports, etc.<br /><br />FWIW, my father is a problem gambler who swore off poker. I liken him to Tony; not willing to study or understand the game, lives in the moment, impulsive, etc. My mother was very concerned when I started getting heavily into playing (my wife was always supportive because she knows how conservative I am about money) until I showed her results, discipline, record keeping and statistics, and writing. I think my father got into a good quantity of debt over poker.The Poker Meisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18289059101454598371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-33629251824550320772013-09-17T07:38:06.966-07:002013-09-17T07:38:06.966-07:00TPM - Those are big issues. Most of my poker play...TPM - Those are big issues. Most of my poker playing life I've been a bachelor so I just played when I wanted and for how long I wanted.<br /><br />When I was with Carmel we went into the relationship and she knew that I loved the game and sometimes played a lot but she expected that to change and didn't let me know until after the fact and it became a huge issue between us. Neither of us handled it properly and it caused a few blow ups, both at home and at the poker tables.<br /><br />Since then I have grown up a bit and I now plan my playing time in advance (usually) and plan it around family time.<br />If she is working late an evening and the kid is being watched by his grand parents then that's a good time to go. Or if people are in town and I know enough in advance I'll let her know that "on Tuesday I'll be out with some friends for a few hours" type of deal.<br /><br />I think the whole "Hey babe, I was out till 5 am playing poker and am tired" thing kind of scares her because there was a previous issue with some gambling addiction in her family. So, I do have to play it a bit delicate until she see's how I handle things and how I manage my money and such. But, I think in the end everything will work out pretty well providing I keep her in the loop on everything and don't surprise her by going on a week long bender where every day after work I go play for 8 hours only leaving myself time for a nap and a shower before work.<br /><br />grrouchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619493798073601300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-21897267050306418752013-09-17T07:31:31.128-07:002013-09-17T07:31:31.128-07:00Carmel stopped coming around after we parted ways ...Carmel stopped coming around after we parted ways and she got married.<br /><br />grrouchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619493798073601300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-80582187267501370212013-09-17T07:30:13.616-07:002013-09-17T07:30:13.616-07:00Being broke has everything to do with everything T...Being broke has everything to do with everything Tony.<br />How can you say that when one of the big claims is that you can't win because you don't have enough money?<br />This is EXACTLY what her husband/boyfriend/whatever has told her before.<br />He might as well just be you but with a woman.<br />He took out a loan to play higher levels and then BLEW all his money on stupid stuff ($800 taxi ride, machines...) This is the equivilent of you getting a free $5000 or that huge amount of the SSI and then blowing it as well.<br /><br />This last time he borrowed money (stake) so that he could grind poker.<br />He is angry and violent and has control issues. He doesn't know how to handle losing.<br /><br />This story reminds me of you with less outrageous behavior (though it might be there and she just isn't telling it).<br /><br />grrouchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619493798073601300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-19769387876787325442013-09-17T05:21:04.911-07:002013-09-17T05:21:04.911-07:00LOL @ the two comments above... Pick me! Pick me...LOL @ the two comments above... Pick me! Pick me!<br /><br />Anyway - even though it wasn't asked for, I'd like to interject my situation as well. For my wife & I, it's not so much issues with money but the issue of time and emotion from the game. The time spent at the tables is time away from the family and with my wife. That time is always a point of contention. I think over the years my wife has come to accept that this is a major "hobby" for me and it makes money for the family to use.<br /><br />For the emotional side of the game, the online roller coasters were much stronger - add to the fact that there's no down time between driving from the casino to home to help "get over it." Allowing my mood to be affected by how I've done in the game the hour or night or week before is something I'm always struggling with. The Poker Meisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18289059101454598371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-287199969730354352013-09-17T00:54:17.587-07:002013-09-17T00:54:17.587-07:00and why does Grouchie have so many women followers...and why does Grouchie have so many women followers of his blog? mostly all mine are men. what ever happened to carmel?Tony Bigcharleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14505857211799064393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8025049.post-30534847295989468372013-09-17T00:52:50.814-07:002013-09-17T00:52:50.814-07:00i wonder if shes ever seen my blog although im sur...i wonder if shes ever seen my blog although im sure im a lot better at poker than the man u are referring to. remember poker isnt where i lost my money, it was on other things. thats why everyone is so confused, they are thinking just because im broke i must not be good and yet me being so broke now has nothing to do with poker at all.Tony Bigcharleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14505857211799064393noreply@blogger.com