Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Being Nice has it's Disadvantages

So, over the last few days I have kinda discussed this "issue" with some friends and I have also brought it up to a small group of people who I now work with at my new store.

Let me start over.

I'm an asshole.  I'm full of sarcasm, bad humor and I come across as an asshole to a lot of people because of it.  I'm cool with it and in fact I spend many years crafting, honing and fine tuning my attitude and personality to get to the point where I am today.

I am able to simultaneously keep away the majority of people surrounding me while at the same time keeping a few friends who take the time to get to know me and realize exactly what I am and how to take my personality.

I don't like a whole lot of people.  I don't like people clamoring for my attention.  I don't want people planning social dates and inviting me to all kinds of place.  I just want my small group of friends that I can do shit with and screw the rest of the world.

However, now that I'm moving back up into a management level of the company I decided that with going to a new store where only a few people know me I should start with a new outlook on everything and a new perspective.  So, I have (so far) ditched most of the sarcasm and the off hand comments and have focused on just being nice to people in general.

I've started to notice the disadvantages to this type of behavior.

People, a lot of people, are being really nice to me.
Friendly even.
People are saying hi to me all the time.
People are starting random conversations with me.
People are talking to me about their day and their life.
People are trying to be friends with me.

I've had a couple people mention that "we could be good friends."
I don't know how to handle this type of positive attention.
I live, breathe and feed off negativity.

However, this is yet another "positive" change in my life that I am trying to make and I will find a way to cope with it all.

Bah, humbug

grrouch out


  1. Losing weight, a positiive attitude = a new Grouchie!

    Go for it!

  2. Traitor! Come back to the dark side!

  3. You without sarcasm is like eating nachos without cheese. Maybe just save the sarcasm for friends who understand it and won't be offended. ;o)

    1. I could never eat nacho's without cheese

  4. Macho's without cheese , wouldn't they just be chips? You also once turnt up your nose to meatless tacos!

    1. Yes, this is true.
      Meatless taco's are pretty damned good.